If you are experiencing abuse—or believe you may be at risk—it can help to think through your safety options ahead of time. Leaving an abusive relationship can sometimes increase the risk of harm, so it is important to make a plan that fits your specific situation.

A safety plan might include:

• Identify trusted people. Think about adults, friends, family members, teachers, counselors, coworkers, or other people you trust who could support you or help you get to safety.

• Have a safe place in mind. Know where you could go if you needed to leave quickly, such as the home of someone you trust, a shelter, or another safe location.

• Create a code word. Choose a word or phrase that you can text or say to someone you trust when you need them to know you are in danger without alerting the person who is abusing you.

• Avoid being isolated when possible. Consider using a buddy system, staying around people you trust, and letting someone know where you are going.

• Think about school or work safety. If appropriate, let a trusted teacher, counselor, administrator, supervisor, or security officer know what is happening. You may also want to consider changes to your routine, transportation, or other arrangements that could increase your safety.

• Protect your privacy. Consider changing passwords, reviewing location-sharing settings, updating your email or phone number if necessary, and being thoughtful about what you share online. If you believe your devices are being monitored, seek help from a domestic violence advocate before making changes that could alert the abuser.

• Document abuse when it is safe to do so. Keep records of threatening messages, incidents, injuries, property damage, or other evidence. Store this information somewhere the abuser cannot access it. Never put yourself in greater danger just to collect evidence.

• Know who to contact in an emergency. Keep important phone numbers and emergency contacts accessible. If you are in immediate danger, call 911 or your local emergency service.

• Consider legal protections. Depending on your situation, options such as a protective or restraining order may be available. A domestic violence advocate, attorney, or law enforcement professional can help explain your options.

• Plan for essential items. If you may need to leave quickly, consider keeping important documents, medications, keys, money, and other necessities somewhere safe and accessible.

• Reach out for support. You do not have to figure everything out alone. A domestic violence advocate can help you create a personalized safety plan and connect you with resources.

Most importantly, trust your instincts. You know your situation better than anyone else. A safety plan does not have to be perfect—it is simply a way to think ahead about what could help you stay safer.

If you are in immediate danger, call 911. If you need support or help thinking through your options, reaching out to a domestic violence advocate can be a safe place to start.